A guide to planning a baby shower

June 4, 2024
The Soulside Team

What is a baby shower?

A baby shower is a get together, with loved ones to honor the arrival of a new baby. It's a way to show to-be-parents that they have a support network and to assist them in getting ready for their little one by providing practical gifts such as clothing, diapers and baby essentials.

When is it held? 

While there’s no set rule, most baby showers usually take place around a month or two before the baby is expected to arrive. However if there are circumstances that call for a later celebration that's perfectly okay! For example the to-be-parents might have a schedule or concerns, about the baby coming ahead of schedule. The key is to select a date that suits everyone involved. Remember, the goal of a baby shower is to rejoice in the arrival and show support, for the parents not to add unnecessary pressure.

Who hosts the baby shower?

In the past it was not typical for family members to organize baby showers to steer clear of seeming gift grabby. These days it's perfectly fine, for friends or colleagues of the soon-to-be parents to take on the hosting duties. While it's not quite the norm yet, for the mom to be or grandparents to be to throw their party this is gradually becoming more acceptable. Ultimately what truly counts is that the baby shower is put together with care and consideration for the parents.

Things to remember when planning :

  • Decide your budget: Decide how much you can spend to offer to spend on the shower. This will determine the size of the event, as well as the food, decorations, and other expenses.

  • Find a location: Choose a venue that suits the size of your guest list and budget. This could be your home, a local park, or a restaurant.

  • Choose a theme: Decide on a theme that goes with the interests or style of the parents-to-be.

  • Decide who to invite: Consult with the parents-to-be to find out who should be invited. Make sure to include their closest friends and family members.

  • Set the date: Pick a date that works for the parents-to-be and most of the guests.

  • Send out invitations: Send out invitations three to four weeks before the shower. Include the date, time, location, RSVP information, and any other important details.

  • Put together a gift list: If the parents-to-be have registered for gifts, make sure to include that information on the invitation or when guests RSVP. If not, try creating a list of gift ideas that fit within the budget.

  • Prepare the food and drink: Decide the menu according to the parents-to-be choices and most of the guests dietary restrictions. Consider finger foods, light snacks, and desserts that fit the theme. You can also add cocktails and mocktails.

  • Decorate the venue: Decorate the venue in a way that reflects the theme of the shower. This can include balloons, banners, centerpieces, or flowers. 

  • Organize activities: Plan fun activities for the guests to participate in, such as baby-themed games or a scrapbooking station where guests can create a personalized page for the baby.

  • Enjoy the day: Most importantly, relax and enjoy the day. Make sure to take plenty of photos and videos to capture the memories. 

Can second time parents have baby showers? 

Traditionally, baby showers were held only for first-time parents, but nowadays, it's perfectly acceptable to hold a shower for a second baby.

A smaller event, known as a "baby sprinkle," might also be a great way to celebrate the new arrival. This could be something as simple as a picnic or pancake breakfast.

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